Women in Law

Moms in big law with babies are always posting about it being tough, so no news there. But I’m a mom in big law in the M&A practice and I’m wondering if any other moms are finding this to be straight ...

Had a miscarriage on Friday (third IVF loss in a row) and also learned I need to cut my upcoming 7-day vacation down to 2 days to accommodate depositions. I’m too busy with work to be able to process ...

How to not cry in feedback meetings? I have my mid year evaluation coming up. My performance hasn’t been great since maternity leave. Stellar work product. On track for hours even if you ignore my ram...

Anyone feel like their work is subpar after coming back from maternity leave? Any tips appreciated.

There are not enough hours in the day to be a mom to an 18 month old, a litigation associate, and 7 months pregnant at the same time. What was I thinking 😮‍💨🫠

Do you ever get used to the panic spikes? I’ve been lawyering for over 6 years now and still have moments of panic multiple times a week. (Yes, I’m in therapy and yes, I’m on anti-anxiety medication b...

What’s the longest vacation you’ve taken? Planning a 2 week trip to Japan in November and worried about pushback. We have unlimited PTO. It’ll be my first vacation since being at my firm 1.5 years), t...

I’m in the second half of my maternity leave. Is there anything I should do to set myself up for success when returning to work?

WIL with kids - What time do you show up to the office and what time do you leave? I’ve got young kids and have to do drop off and pickup - also have an hour commute. What is your firm culture like, e...

Someone please help me with creating a workout plan as a FTE with a toddler in daycare. I don't understand how to make this possible...

What is the best time to announce a pregnancy? Should I let people know as soon as I hit the 12 week mark or is there any reason to wait longer? And how exactly do people announce? Tell the loud assi...

How long do you think it took you to fully “ramp back up” after maternity leave to where you were before? Did you ever? Been back for just shy of one month and don’t see how I’ll ever work my way bac...

Pros and cons of coming back from maternity leave and immediately giving notice?

I’ve had a slow year in hours this year due to IVF and now pregnancy. I’m high risk and will likely have a ton of appointments in the last month. I’m already behind on hours (maybe 100 hours), could t...

Has anyone done multiple rounds of IVF while doing this job (2000 billable expectations)? How did you handle the days off work, and deal with the physical and psychological effects? I didn’t want to t...

Feeling the brunt of being a woman of color today more than ever. Everything being interpreted against you always is exhausting.

Did you fill out a self evaluation for the year you took leave or skip? Our review season is in the middle of mine.

Going on maternity leave in less than a month. Still billing a lot of hours because I’m being staffed on busy matters. How to request getting ramped down?

Looking for commiseration. This job market is so tough. I'm employed but have been actively looking to leave my dysfunctional job for about 9 months, and I don't know how long I can be last before qui...

Mid-level in big law in CA, 19 weeks pregnant with my first (~10 months at firm), just got a bad review. They’ve known I’m pregnant since 13 weeks. Told we’d revisit performance during annual reviews ...